Shades of grey.....the new black.....

We seem to live in a world that is either black or white with very little space for shades of grey. Our beliefs are often in conflict with those around us. Everyone seems to know what we should be doing, how we need to be living and the path that is right for us!
Can anyone ever know what is the "right" way and whether that path will ultimately lead us to the success we seek. How do we follow our inner guidance and avoid making the mistakes which can derail and knock us off our path?

A few years ago I found the Human Design System which has guided me into understanding how I operate and helping me to fulfill my life's purpose....I finally received my very own manual. You cant buy a Samsung DVD player and use the manual of a different model and make and expect to make it work!! Same as with our own lives..... In order for life to work we need a map or our inner workings, our mind, our conscious and unconscious self and with this we can finally come into our own and be who we were truly made to be.

The past few weeks have made me realise that becoming black or white in our thinking takes away the very joy of life. We become rigid in the right and wrong ways of doing things! We start to impose limitations on ourselves as we judge trying to be perfect mothers, wives, friends and partners.

There will always be people who think they know what is best for us, what is the right way, what religious rule will make God love us even more and hopefully reward us for our "good deeds". But what really happens is that we become so unhappy in the rigid thinking that we become dysfunctional and unhappy in the now.

With every Rabbi, Priest and guru spinning the latest tune of what is "really" the right way to live you have to ask yourself - who is right if they all believe they are right??? How confusing is it when everyone believes they know what is best and we are left wondering whether we can trust our own inner knowing and guidance system. Many of us have long forgotten that we even have one and we continue to listen to everyone else's opinion instead of letting our inner voice guide us.

All we have is the present moment, each day a gift and what I have learned in the past few weeks is that giving up on what brings me joy to think that I will be rewarded some time in the future is not the answer. We believe we have to give up something to one day get something but in the meantime we give up on the greatest pleasures! There is no happy ending to an unhappy journey! Of course we need to make our decisions wisely but perhaps with more shades of grey.....it really is the new black!